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I have two toddlers, a boy age two, and a girl, age four. They color on walls (which I don't mind but this outrages my husband.) They take dry goods out of the cabinet and pour them out on the sofa in the living room. My son figured out how to override the lock option on the microwave, put a small metal schoolbus in there, and set the microwave on fire. My daughter hits redial on the phone and calls people (the last was a service person for the furnace) and tells whoever that she is scared and doesn't know where her parents are (usually after we think she is asleep and we go to sleep.) They break anything they can get their hands on. They've destroyed my husband's turntable (one he's had since high school), our stereo system, all VCR's, punched holes in walls by flinging large plastic toys downstairs. My son likes to take the batteries out of the remote and suck on them. My daughter has eaten bath crystals, toilet paper, pennies, cigarette butts from the ground at playgrounds, drank laundry soap, cooking oil, nasty toilet water, and crayons, paints, tubes of chapstick, etc. They often REFUSE to eat what we prepare at mealtimes. They REFUSE to adhere to bedtime rules. It's very stressful to take them to the grocery store or other stores because they tear things from shelves and open packages, eat candy while at the check out, scream incessantly for "I want(s)." Mind you, they know what the rules are. I tell them over and over every time something happens. I do reward them for good behavior. I have spanked them on some occasions because I felt that what they were doing was life threatening and they needed to get the message that it was not just "bad", (like when my daughter pushed my son down a flight of stairs, biting my mother in laws dog, setting fire to the microwave, trying to leave stores with strangers, when my daughter jimmied the child proof door knob cover off of the front door and left to take a walk down the block--which resulted in my neighbor calling DCFS and having to do a follow up investigation.) They shred VCR tapes, audio cassete tapes, CD's, and important documents. They hit, bite, and scratch one another. They are constantly running up to my husband and head butting him in the private area. My daughter calls her preschool teacher "chatterbox" and "underpants"; note: I realized too late that she got this from watching Spongebob Squarepants, and so now I have to even police the cartoons they watch. I feel like the situation has gone beyond my control (as if I were ever in control). This is all just the tip of the iceburg on the mayhem which they incur. I've talked to two therapists, teachers, our pediatrician (who thinks that at least my daughter, if not my son as well, is Bi-polar, the pastor at the church where my daughter attends preschool, and exhausted my own parents and my husband's mother by constantly asking for help. By the way, I don't believe that my daughter is bi-polar. Rather, I think that if I knew what the heck to do with her, then she could straighten up her act. I have three other older children (12, 9, and 6) and they were a totally different experience for me. Since they have grown and developed so well, and not without some "problems", I can only hope and pray that these younger two will grow out of whatever it is that makes them show out so much. In short, I'm going insane. I'm a stay-at-home mom and I deal with this on an all day long, everyday basis. What used to be my since of purpose has turned into a nightmare that I can't wake up from.
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